We’re not going to escape conflict or stress. But we can change our approach to it and we can practice reacting better.
We must work on dividing the event from the emotion. Step back and observe the event after it’s happened (and maybe after you’ve reacted badly) and look at the event, how it affects you, and how it affects the people or things around you.
When you take the time to simply look at the event, you strip away the emotion and just look at the facts a little out of context.
The moment you realize you can step back and observe the event without emotion, you will realize that you have more control and resilience than you thought.
When you understand how much control you have, you will see that you happen to the things around you instead of being the thing upon which other stuff happens.
This will give you confidence. This will give you better self-control. This will help you have a better instant reaction when things go sideways. This will help you be more content and more resilient under pressure.
Practice dividing the event from the emotion.