I used to have a friend who always felt bogged down by life. Nearly everything that needed to be done, he would find himself in a state of extreme distress whenever he encountered a problem where it was not immediately apparent how he’d solve the issue.
I remember talking to him about it and trying to get to the bottom of the problem, but it eventually got so bad that he split from his wife and–last I’d heard–he had nearly no relationship with his children. I still wish I could have offered better help or advice and that he could have made the necessary adjustments to correct the course and avoid the shipwreck he had in the end.
It’s a story that reminds me to savor the process, no matter how uncomfortable at the moment. The primary reason is that it’s the best way to learn. You remember how to solve a problem much better than if someone swoops in and “saves” you with their solution. You forget what you get fed, but you remember how you solved a problem.
The side effects are that you become much happier, more adept at problem-solving (because you can relax and work it out), and you’re a much more peaceful person to work/live/deal with.
Imagine what would happen if we all would savor the problem-solving process instead of running to someone for the answer? At first, it would be hard, but the reward, later on, would be massive.*