Not many things are more annoying than when somebody assumes “it’ll be easy for you to do this extra task that falls far outside of the contract we signed.”
There is patronizing air as they assume all the extra work will be easy. Maybe it’s a bit manipulative because they mask sucking extra work out of you by slathering you with fake adulation.
Anyway, whether it’s the skill set of others or the criticisms you have of the decisions they’re making in their life, it’s important to be humble and leave room for kindness.
Life has its difficulties and just because someone carries it well, doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy.