Focusing on unhappiness (and why it’s good)

Unhappiness itself isn’t good, but focusing on it is good.

When we focus on happiness we find that we are chasing something that always seems out of reach.

We avoid thinking about unhappiness because it’s scary and we think it will depress us or worry us, etc…

Like most things that seem obvious at first glance, this is a backward way to think.

When we focus on what makes us unhappy and what outcomes make us unhappy, we start to see the good in all the things around us and we begin to subtract the things that bring us unhappiness.

We gain control over those things and ultimately over unhappiness itself.

It’s better to hate losing more than they love winning. You’ll find you win more and you’re happier about those wins.